In or out of the closet??

I am a woman dating a woman and a man. I love them both and I know this will have to die down VERY SOON. My family does not know of my likes and they feel that I should be with a man. Of course. However I want to marry a man and fuck bitches!! I know it's my life and I must decide what to do a.s.a.p. I have 2 people that I love equally and I want them both!!! I wish they would understand. I know I have to tell them but I don't know how to do it?


Hey In or Out of the closet.

I noticed that you said that you love them both but are you IN LOve with either of them? You need to figure out what you want to do. Either you want to be straight or you want to be gay. But sweetie you can't be both. There is no such thing as bi...unless ya ass is bi-polar. Something has got to give. You want them to understand...well tell them. Hell who knows what they would say this day n age. Maybe you can still marry that man n fuck ya bitches...but the man you fuck will have access to all ya bitches too. Can you handle that?

P.s Excuse the french but fuck ya family(unless their last name is Trump or Hilton:)). For real. It's your life. You have to live in it, with it and for it.

Bye bye now!!

N THE R.A.W

A LIL TIRED

Yo N The Raw,

I have this friend that is in a relationship with this guy that is bogus. It's her business, however, she always feels the need to give me advice about mine. I don't understand. Currently I am single and date every so often. However no matter what I tell her or try to talk to her about she always seems to know the perfect answer. I know that sounds hypocritical because I ask for her advice, but it doesn't seems as though she listens well. She is fond of one person that I date and no matter what he does to hurt me she always seems to agree with him. I started to think that it was because of her relationship and how misery loves company. She pretends to be in it just for the moment, but I know she is still in it because HE has not left yet.

A Lil tired


Hey A Lil Tired,

The most obvious thing about your situation is that you need to shut your mouth. You need not tell your friend anything else about your relationship(s). I don't since that your friend is jealous of you but it may be something that you have that she wants. You may need to watch out for her ass. Either she wants you in that relationship because she wants you to be a miserable as she is or she wants you in the relationship because she wants to be with the guy herself. Maybe because you really don't want to be with him she thinks that you would not care if they are together. Who knows As they late great Tupac says " keep ya enemies close nigga watch ya homies".

Bye Bye now

Coffee: with or without Suga-Daddy

Hi N The Raw!

I’m a young woman, 36 years old and I’m facing a dilemma. Due to means beyond my control, I stepped out of my relationship, and briefly dated an older gentleman. I thought that he was only about 10 years older than me because he does not look old. Well low and behold after searching on the Internet, I found out that he is 27 years older than I am!!!!!!!!!!!! I was truly disgusted because that means when I was (born) he was 27!!!! Also, he has a bad habit of calling me “little girl” and well I guess I am! I went to a Jazz Fest with him and finally met a few of his friends and felt like I was at a Geritol Convention.

My problem: He was good to me financially! Took me on shopping trips, out of town, etc…….. and I somewhat have become accustomed to it. But my heart tells me to end it because I am just too grossed out now! Do I end it and let him go on about his business or do I continue to be greedy and sell my soul to him for the money, gifts, etc???? Please help!!

Signed,
Coffee with or without Suga-Daddy!!!

Hey Coffee...with or without Suga-Daddy,

After reading your entry I couldn't help but think about how money is always an aspect in a relationship. What about love? Now I will be the first to admit that love can't pay the bills. However I am always a sucker for TRUE love. True love is not shopping sprees and vacations. True love is that tingle in every touch, laughter for no reason, long conversation, trust and admiration. You can't trust Baby Jesus. He started the relationship off with a lie. A little white lie but A very important lie. He cheated you out of the chance to make your own decisions on what you wanted in the relationship. He knew it would be a problem that's why he lied in the first place. He doesn't seem like a bad guy but let's face the real truth...You are grossed out by this guy. And if you don't mind my saying, with being 36 you not only are still at the peak of your life, but how much time do you want to continue wasting searching the internet for the truth about dogs??? Or being his "Little Girl"? Not to mention going on and doubting his every word. On the bright side you can wait it out like Anna Nicole but I want you to ask yourself a serious question...Is money worth your soul?

Bye Bye now

Is My Husband Gay

R.A.W
My husband and I have been married for 4 yrs. He is metro-sexual and has always been, that's what attracted me to him. Lately he has been distant and I can't understand why. We have so much fun together. We laugh at each other jokes and we can talk about any and every thing. I went through his phone and found a msg. He has a friend of his past(female) and a current friend (male) whos' names are similar. With checking his phone I noticed a text message that said "Thank you so much for last night, I really had a great time...you were so good to me." What?!?!?!?!?!?

Is my Husband gay?!?!?


Hey Is My Husband Gay

Well if he isn't then there is something going on with that friend of his. They seem to be a lil close to me and sometimes with that being a good thing it turns bad because usually the significant other in the relationship will not like it at all. It's cool to have good friends that are the opposite sex however, boundaries should definately get set. Now if this message was from the guy friend, then honey ya man is gay. gay ass hell. What man do you know would tell another man that they were good to them? NONE!!

Bye Bye now!!

So Confused!!!

Hey R.A.W

My daughter just made the cheer leading squad. She is a freshman in high school so I encouraged her to try out. At that time I was not aware that my daughter could not dance. She has no rhythm. She dances to her own own tune. She is pretty girl and I would hate to have her peers talk about her. She will have to be at that school the next fours years and I want her to be happy. I feel like it is all my fault. What do I do? Do I tell her and hurt her feelings? Do I let her perform for the school and get embarrassed? This is my child and I need to look out for her best interest. I'm so confused!!!


Hey So Confused,

Let your daughter live. She made the squad for a reason. Maybe it was her looks or maybe it was her personality. However, whatever it was that they thought was good enough for her to make the team, then that's why she made it. So what she can't dance. DUH!! That's why it's called CHEER-leading!! I'm quite sure that she will be okay. Just take your ass to her games and be the loudest one in the crowd. Cuz that's your baby dammit!

Bye Bye Now

Calgon Take Me Away!!!!

Hey R.A.W

I recently got married to a man that I have been dating for years. He was my high school sweetheart. We have a beautiful daughter and a lovely home. The only problem is that I never realized how much I didn't like him until we got married. I mean we get along very well. We can talk for hours at a time. He is the bread winner and I stay home and take care of things. I have never felt like that he's cheated however, I am miserable. I dread the time of day when he comes home from work. I have tried to let myself go so he would want to leave me. Stopped taking baths and cleaning up. All he did was say that he would help me to get better. I want out of the relationship and want to be free. I don't know what else to do. I prefer that he leaves so that it would not be on my conscious.


Hey Calgon Take Me Away,

Look let me tell you what I know a lot of women may want to say... Bitch Are YOU STUPID?????? Sounds to me like you have a good man but a bad attitude. You are where many women want to be and you don't know what to do with it. Maybe there is something else that is is wrong with your life that you are not saying however, sounds to me like you are just ungrateful. You could have chosen a different path but you did not. And frankly my dear I don't give a damn. You will loose a good man if you leave. If you know what's good for you, you will wake up and smell the coffee.

Bye Bye Now

About To Snap!!!

Hey R.A.W

I am convinced that my best friend boyfriend likes my sister. I am the oldest so I have to take her out with me all the time. Of course, most of the time that we go out my best friend is with us. We have been inseparable for years and have been going everywhere together. Recently since we have gotten older she invites her boyfriend out with us. I don't mind because he is a cool guy. However, he flirts a lot and mostly it's with my sister. I can tell my best friend is steamed but she has never said a word. All my sister does is laugh and giggle and let him hang all over her ass. I am getting to the point that I want to curse his ass out for doing the shit, curse my sister out for enjoying it, and curse my best friend dumb ass out for not saying anything!!!


Hey About To Snap,

You need to approach this situation and fast. All these mutha fuckers are out of control. If you don't approach all of them it will blow up and probaly in your face. You more so need to talk to your sister first and let her know how you feel. She may not see that she look dumb as hell. (And if your friend is anything like me she needs to slow down before she gets in that ass. ) And you need to talk to your best friend dumb ass for letting this shit take place. What the hell does she needs with a man that she is not really with? It shouldn't be hard to get over him. She should be used to being without him.

Bye Bye now

I Aint Saying She A Gold Digger...

Hey R.A.W

My girl is getting on my last nerves. I don't usually write to advice columns but I need some answers. All she talks about is money, money, money. Everytime we go out I foot the bill. I don't have a problem with that but damn can I get a beer out ya ass. I buy all her clothes and whatever she wants but I can't even get a card on Sweetest Day!! And the shit I buy is expensive as hell. She wants all Gucci, Prada, anything that puts a hole in my pocket. It's so bad now the she wants money everytime we have sex!!! I am ready to break up with her but I love her a lot. Why else would I write to you. We have been together since high school and I would love to marry her but I don't want to live like this anymore.

Hey I Ain't Saying She A Gold Digger,

I see you are suffering from a case of B.G.O.P. Which means bitch get out of pockets!!! And I'm very sorry to hear that. However you knew the type of person she was when yall got together. She didn't wake up into a gold digger one day. She has BEEN like that. Don't try to change up the script now. You must do what you did to get her; to keep her. Or you may as well prepare to loose her. She may understand your issue but may not even care. She is use to you spoiling her. That's whats wrong with relationships today. The men like to slip up, they like to get comfortable. They stop taking woman out and doing things to keep woman happy. So just man up. Besides what do you need extra money for??? To trick off?!?!?!

Bye Bye Now

Getting Ready To Loose It!!!!

Hey R.A.W,

I have this situation okay. A friend mine I have been knowing for a while always flirt with my man. I mean it's harmless but it's been going on for so long that she is starting to piss me off. There were little things that she does like laugh extra hard at his jokes and shit. She touches him when they talk and the bitch tickled him the other day! I almost lost it! I had to really calm myself down. I mean the bitch has to be stopped before I hurt her ass. What's so bad is that she is realy a good friend. I have been knowing this girl for a long time but she has been doing this shit since grade school. I have said things to her before but I've never cursed her out. I would hate to have to do that. Things are starting to get to the point where I don't even want to be around her anymore.

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Hey Getting Ready To Loose It,

It's obvious that your girl need some attention! I can't see why anyone would be in another womans' man face that much. Matter-of-fact, why the hell is she around you and your man any damn way?!?! What you need to do is take the bitch to the club and accidently fall on her ass. While your falling grab her shirt and rip it off!!! Not only will that help you let off some steam, it will also allow the bitch to get all the attention she needs!!!!
Bye Bye Now

No More Drama

Hey R.A.W
Tell my why yest I'm chillin with my guy and his phone starts blowing up!! It's his Baby Momma. She spotted his cars at my house and wasn't leaving until he come outside. WHAT!! I'm pissed. His ass started peeking out the windows like he was afraid of something. So I snapped. Supposedly they are not together anymore and have not been for a while. Well his body language didn't say that. Not only that but the bitch stayed outside by his car until he came out. Now everytime his ass visit he is in his brother's car And he don't spend the night anymore. What should I do. I really do love him and want this to work.

No more Drama,
Look girl, I don't know what it will take for you to see that he is still messing around with her. First of all who in the hell has time to sit outside and wait on a man to come out. Especially of another woman's house. Not to mention the brother don't even lay with you at night anymore. Girrrlll pleeasse. You don't need an A in common sense to know that shs is the main Chica. He is way more concerned about what she thinks than what you think or the brother will at least lay his head at your house. Take it for what it worth and then move along. Enjoy the moment. Cherish the memory. If you fall into it any deeper than you will receive everything you are asking for!!! And probaly more!!
Bye Bye Now!!!

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In The Raw

Have you ever needed advice and had no one to to talk to? Have you ever felt like your friends were not giving you the whole truth. You know; "sparing your feelings?" Then at the oddest moment,you found comfort in talking to someone you didn't even know? That's why I'm here. I give guidance in the R.A.W.

So... R.ead A.nd W.eep
You don't believe me...just ask.
I Dare you!!