A LIL TIRED

Yo N The Raw,

I have this friend that is in a relationship with this guy that is bogus. It's her business, however, she always feels the need to give me advice about mine. I don't understand. Currently I am single and date every so often. However no matter what I tell her or try to talk to her about she always seems to know the perfect answer. I know that sounds hypocritical because I ask for her advice, but it doesn't seems as though she listens well. She is fond of one person that I date and no matter what he does to hurt me she always seems to agree with him. I started to think that it was because of her relationship and how misery loves company. She pretends to be in it just for the moment, but I know she is still in it because HE has not left yet.

A Lil tired


Hey A Lil Tired,

The most obvious thing about your situation is that you need to shut your mouth. You need not tell your friend anything else about your relationship(s). I don't since that your friend is jealous of you but it may be something that you have that she wants. You may need to watch out for her ass. Either she wants you in that relationship because she wants you to be a miserable as she is or she wants you in the relationship because she wants to be with the guy herself. Maybe because you really don't want to be with him she thinks that you would not care if they are together. Who knows As they late great Tupac says " keep ya enemies close nigga watch ya homies".

Bye Bye now

Coffee: with or without Suga-Daddy

Hi N The Raw!

I’m a young woman, 36 years old and I’m facing a dilemma. Due to means beyond my control, I stepped out of my relationship, and briefly dated an older gentleman. I thought that he was only about 10 years older than me because he does not look old. Well low and behold after searching on the Internet, I found out that he is 27 years older than I am!!!!!!!!!!!! I was truly disgusted because that means when I was (born) he was 27!!!! Also, he has a bad habit of calling me “little girl” and well I guess I am! I went to a Jazz Fest with him and finally met a few of his friends and felt like I was at a Geritol Convention.

My problem: He was good to me financially! Took me on shopping trips, out of town, etc…….. and I somewhat have become accustomed to it. But my heart tells me to end it because I am just too grossed out now! Do I end it and let him go on about his business or do I continue to be greedy and sell my soul to him for the money, gifts, etc???? Please help!!

Signed,
Coffee with or without Suga-Daddy!!!

Hey Coffee...with or without Suga-Daddy,

After reading your entry I couldn't help but think about how money is always an aspect in a relationship. What about love? Now I will be the first to admit that love can't pay the bills. However I am always a sucker for TRUE love. True love is not shopping sprees and vacations. True love is that tingle in every touch, laughter for no reason, long conversation, trust and admiration. You can't trust Baby Jesus. He started the relationship off with a lie. A little white lie but A very important lie. He cheated you out of the chance to make your own decisions on what you wanted in the relationship. He knew it would be a problem that's why he lied in the first place. He doesn't seem like a bad guy but let's face the real truth...You are grossed out by this guy. And if you don't mind my saying, with being 36 you not only are still at the peak of your life, but how much time do you want to continue wasting searching the internet for the truth about dogs??? Or being his "Little Girl"? Not to mention going on and doubting his every word. On the bright side you can wait it out like Anna Nicole but I want you to ask yourself a serious question...Is money worth your soul?

Bye Bye now